With a new baby comes a busier life – and less time to spend with your partner. Its normal for your relationship to play second fiddle to your new baby for at least the first year or so.
A new dad often feels a little left out as his sweetie, now a new mother, gets swept up in the care and needs of the baby. After some time, when life feels like its settled into a routine, youll find that you and your partner can forge a new kind of intimacy and closeness.
Here are a few suggestions for ways to get some special time with your mate:
Strive for a real date night
Arrange for babysitting. If cost is an issue – or if youd just feel more comfortable leaving your baby with someone you know – ask a family member or friend to take over for a few hours or look into starting a babysitting co-op.
And remember, it doesnt have to be a full-fledged night on the town: The goal is simply to get some time alone with each other. So take a walk, grab a bite, or go to the movies.
Make a date night at home
You dont need a sitter to really pay attention to each other. Once your baby has settled down for the night – or at least for a few hours – seize the moment. Resist collapsing on the couch and switching on the TV or slouching off to finish work. Sit together for some face-to-face time.
Focusing on each other for as little as ten minutes can make a huge difference. All too often, new parents can forget even to make eye contact with each other. By simply carving out some moments just to be together youll feel more connected and in touch. (Chances are youll start having more sex, too.)
Get creative
You dont have to wait for the sun to go down to spend quality time with each other. For instance, you can commute to work together or grab lunch once a week. Its surprising how relaxing conversation can become when youre meeting in the middle of the day and theres no baby or batch of chores to worry about.
Read your mate a love letter
Life with a newborn can make it seem like you and your partner are just ships passing in the night. What better way to slow down and reconnect than by telling her how much you love her. You dont have to pen Shakespearean prose to get your honeys heart pumping. Just jot down a few simple thoughts ("I love the way you hug me when Im stressed out" or "Your laugh is infectious") and then share them out loud.
Buy season tickets
If youve already paid for seats to a concert, play, or sporting event, youll feel committed to going. To cut the cost, split season tickets – and babysitting duties – with another couple with a baby.
Nine ways to make time for your mate after the baby arrives 2013
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